My whole family knows I open carry they all know I carry my gun(s) 24/7 when outside my house (inside, one is always within reach). Ive never "asked" permission, but out of respect for my anti-guns family members, i CC when inside their homes. But its a very large gun under my shirt so everyone know it there because its obvious from the outline and of course if someone asked i do tell them. Even my Cop nephew fakes frisks me as a joke to see if and guess at what gun I am carrying, i automatically go to his ankle and almost always find his widow maker hanging there.
I choose not to open carry because its a family event, but i choose to carry because its a family event where i know at least one and sometime two of us will be armed.
as a foot note: two years ago my niece had her wedding...one of my YOUNGER nieces was dancing with my nephew, the cop, they were slow dancing and got frightened because she brushed against something she though was a "gun". Apparently, her mother confronted my nephew all upset he was wearing his gun....dahhhh he is a cop..... My was on my side, under my shirt, printing bigger than life.....i waited for someone to mentioned it to me.....later I found out some family members knew I was carrying but non one mentioned it to this date with the exception of my brother when I questioned him on what happened with his son.
As for me if i was told to disarm or unload.......it would be the last time i step foot in their house until they change their views about "me" carrying in their house............
Im not very close to my siblings but a couple, and to be fair Mom is long gone and all the siblings are all in our late 50's and 60's
sometimes we have an even at one very Anti in-law in that case I conceal the conceal up very well.
for me, open carry is my choice of carry for self-protection, but its also me making a statement to the public...i don't need to do that with my family they all already know my position, but i won't risk my life for their anti-views, thus i choose to CC and not announce it out loud