This is my opinion only.Just as you train mentaly and physicaly for that time,when only you're training kicks in(as mentioned by Massad Ayoob of the leathal force institute),you first must be willing,as I believe most soldiers and leo's are.True,in these PC times,you are wise to speak to those who know and when it comes to those who would use it against you,keep it to yourself.It is yours to work out,with whomever you trust! It's your pain and whatever feelings come of it!It's your life or their's! When it's theirs,You carry on!You trained for it,You carried it out,You go on with Your God Given Life! Until you die of old age and Thank God for everything in between! God Bless!